Today's blog I will reflect back by answering some questions about my life-choice memoir.1. Who did you work with to compose your life-choice memoir? Was this a good approach?
I choose to with my boyfriend on. This was a right approach, and he never heard this part of my life that lead me to where I am now. This untold story provided him with more background and understanding about me. 2. What rhetorical mode and genre are you using? I chose to use descriptive and narrative writing for my life-choice memoir. 3. When did you write this project? Good approach? I started this projects about three weeks. I began by thinking about with was the most important life-choice I had to make. This was not the right approach I should have started early and paste myself. 4. Where did you write this project? Good approach? I wrote any moment I was free at work, in my bed, and whenever class was canceled. This was a good approach for because I was able to stay on top of my work. Why did you choose to write about your chosen topic? Good choice? 5. I choose this topic to inspire someone else who is having the same struggles I had. I love my choice; this topic was something I had struggle with after having my children into my work life. My life-chose was not only for me it was for my children, my sisters, brother and little cousins. I want to show them that it's more here in life and be their guide to how to achieve success. 6. How did it feel to write this narrative ("during, after, and since")? Do you have any "if only" moments that can help you revise the draft? It felt good to playing Morgan Freeman to my own story. I do not any if only moments, what way was is done. 7. How will you revise your narrative? I would not revise my narrative, and I like it is. If there were suggestions that would better my narrative, I would strongly consider them.
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Today’s blog I will give you feedback on, Hills Like White Elephants written by Ernest Hemingway. Weather I think she stayed with the American man or she left him after making her life choice decision.
I believe the girl did not leave the American man. She might not have been the only one he was with, but the girl did stay in a relationship with him. I feel that the American men use reverse psychology on the girl. He made her feel as though she had the upper hand in making the decision of getting the abortion. He was there to show support and that he cared. He paid for everything so that everything would go smooth. He made sure the girl felt comfortable and had a good time. In her head, she thinks this man loves her, they're making this decision together, and she’s going to be his number one. I have seen this story played out too many times. Some young girls are not mutual or wise enough to date an older man. A man like the American man knows how to get what want and young girls fall for there games and stay. A female whom I am very close to dealt with a man like this. He was an older successful man who claimed to be separated from wife. In the being he wined and dined her, I was even jealous. I was only jealous because I never had it easy, I had worked for everything got. She would tell me about the places they would go to, what he had bought her, and how much she was in love. Even though life seemed good, he never could stay long when he visits and he was very secretive. She would always make excess when he could not make it to family and friends events. I still could tell when she was hurting, even when she kept a poker face. Things changed when she became pregnant. He started to come around more and answering all her calls. Then he drops a seed in her head, that he did not think that they were ready for a child. She though sharing this major life decision would make him love her more and bring them closer. The act that he put on was only temporary. After she had the abortion, he returned to his jerkish ways. She continued to put up with his crap, then finally after three abortion, no divorce from his wife she moved on. I never understood why she put herself through something like this. I try to give her advice on numerous occasions, but I was on the outside looking in. She needed to see for self and make a decision. In my life, I also dealt with my fair shared of guys I should have left but stayed. One of my relationships that I should have gone before I did was when I was in my early twenties. I was two weeks away from getting married. Reality kicked in, I came home and explained to my ex-fiance that I would be canceling the wedding. In the being, I was dating his representative, a lovely, goal drive, family man. My children loved him and he was so into me. Going on a year, we thought it would be a good idea to move in together, and we could save money. Then the honeymoon stages started to fade away, and this new person started to emerge. His business was not doing as well, so he took it out on me. He became distance towards me, and arguments became normal. I though his behavior was just a phase, caused by stress and loss of income. My children loved and were so happy around him, so I put up with his mess. It was until I was up for a promotion, then my eyes opened a little. He had a lot of negative and degrading things to say about me taking the promotion. I took the promotion anyway not caring about anything he had said because he was not bring in any money. Time went on, and he proposed to me I said, “ YES!’, because this was a real ring two and a half carats. I thought this was a dream, I never had anyone loved me and my children like this. Most of my family was not married. When I was a little girl, I was never told marriage was something to look forward to in my future. I started to get caught up in the wedding plans, and I ignored all of our other issues. We had issues with money, communication, and conception. It all came out when we started to go to pre-marriage counsel. At first, I thought we could fix these issues and move forward with the wedding. I had paid so much move for the wedding I wanted this to work. It was time to decide on dress code, and this is when I had enough. I told him I want him to wear all white, a small, little request. No, no, no, that was way to much to ask for. Then I brought this issue to my pastor, and I had opened a whole new can of worms. The entire time he thought everything that I was doing or asking of him, I was trying to control him. From taking the promotion to asking him to wear all white. He was trying to get in my head to make me feel like I needed in some form or way by beating down things that was good for the whole family. His behavior was caused by an inability of not being the head of the house whole. In another word, he did not feel Like a man. As the issues vented to my pastor, my pastor expressed if I marry this man the issues would not stop and I would struggle for the rest of my life. My pastor looked at him also than expressed if he married me he would ruin my life. I started to think real hard why I should marry him. Only one thing that kept coming up was I had spent a lot of money for the wedding. So I decide that he was not the man for me and canceled the wedding. I can always get more money, but time and happiness cannot be replaced. |
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